Wednesdays are CoCo (CoCurricular) days. Drama Queen and Cass will be home late, at around 4ish pm. Whenever they are back from school, they look and behave like feral dogs — they will dart straight to the kitchen to check every nook and corner in search for food. At the sight of food, they will stuff them quickly into their mouths, as if they have not eaten for days! Don’t get me wrong. They bring food to school everyday. I feed them well.
Below – Cass’ snacks after CoCo yesterday (Wednesday). She had a packet of Izumio hydrogen water, papaya, a piece of ginger + spice biscuit, grandma’s fresh-from-the-oven palm sugar butter and almond meal cup cake and a mug of sugar-free Hershey’s cocoa milk. She walloped all these down and 2 hours later, she had a heavy dinner!
My girls are growing up really fast. They are no longer the little ones that need coaxing to finish the food. Drama Queen has come a long way. For 6 years of her life, I had to endure with her storing food in her mouth at every meal. On some nights, she would sit at the dining table from 6 – 10pm struggling to finish her bowl of rice + dishes; often she fell asleep at the dining table with food still stored in her mouth. Now, she is the champion of the 3 girls when it comes to eating.
With 3 fast growing girls, the dishes on the dining table are ALWAYS polished off clean. And I have to replenish the stockpile of snacks in the pantry every SINGLE DAY.
Honey, now you know why I have to do grocery shopping every single day!! 🍗🍕🍔🍎🍏🍒🍖🍱 🙀
Parents can help young children set small goals that are easily attainable as a way to help boost their self esteem. Setting goals and developing a plan of action directed toward reaching those goals is a skill that can help them throughout life.
Start at Home
Learning responsibility often starts with giving a child small goals such as keeping their room clean or feeding the family pet. Those responsibilities can be expanded as children get older. Celebrating their dedication to their responsibilities and the achievement of new goals will help a child be more motivated to strive for higher goals.
Take Notice of Kindness
Children have a way of surprising parents and teachers by doing unexpected acts of kindness for siblings, classmates, family members, neighbors or maybe even strangers. It’s important to take notice of a child’s good deeds by rewarding their kindness. Compassion for others is a behavior of mindset that you want to encourage.
Some children struggle to make it through a school year. For others, high school or college graduation is a milestone they had to work exceptionally hard to reach. There are a lot of instances during a child’s growing years that they have to stretch beyond their comfort zone. The challenges they face may be related to their athletic ability, their introvert personality or their level of creativity. Stepping out of one’s comfort zone and accomplishing something that seemed impossible is an achievement that deserves acknowledgement.
When children are young, they need immediate rewards rather than delayed responses to their accomplishments. Stickers, check marks, tokens or some similar reward system that can be tallied up and linked to a larger reward is a good way to reward kids. The more creative you are with the reward, the more memorable the experience will be. You could surprise your child with something such as an amazing cookie bouquet. The bouquet could be sports related, animal themed or a bouquet composed of their favorite cookie. Cookie bouquets are also a fantastic birthday gift and a great way to perk up a child that is going through a difficult time.
Adults like to be shown appreciated for good deed and encouragement for achievements. Kids are no different. Offering them encouragement and recognizing their achievements is a great way to motivate them to set higher goals.
Cass and I, we are ‘frenemies’. We argue a lot (she’s very headstrong and so am I!) yet at the end of the day, we give each other hugs and kisses before going to bed. We share stories a lot and she tells me everything that had transpired in school. Today she shared with me that her drawing of the human dental anatomy got a lot of likes from her Science teacher. Cass’ teacher pulled off the page of the drawing from her exercise book and pinned it to the bulletin board in her classroom. She also got some chocolates from the teacher as reward. She was so happy! We both laughed that she actually drew that dental anatomy while in a really groggy state of mind as she was struggling to keep her eyes opened that night. This year her teachers give the class a lot of homework and she’s been working hard on the homework late into the night on most days.
Last night, Cass told me that her classmate (a boy) informed her that a Malay boy from another class admires her secretly… HO HO HO!!! She is now dying to know who the boy is and so do I! HA HA!
Cass loves to ask me questions. One of the questions that she asked me recently is how Jesus became God. As it’s lengthy to explain it to her, I told her to go to the iTunes video learning app where she can download The Great Course and read in detail how Jesus became God. My girls download books to read a lot. iTunes has many apps where you can download books to read as well as stream educational videos and lectures taught by top professors in the world. I’d like to try the Android video learning app too to equip myself with some self improvement courses. I wish I had the time to do so.