Dealing With A Difficult Tween

I’ve been feeling a tad melancholic since the start of school on Monday. On the first day of school, my 11-year old found it extremely hard to wake up for school. And when she woke up after much resistance and kicking, she morphed into a totally different person… like someone has just cast a spell on her.  Errr, it’s still the 7th month in the Chinese calendar  👻🥶

The moment she got up, she was very moody and extremely stroppy. Suddenly, everything that I said to her wasn’t well received by her. Everything I did and said were wrong in her world.  Suddenly she became so volatile and disconnected from me that she’s a totally different person. It’s a shock to me as my previously sweet little baby girl starts tantrumming and hating me!  Hate is such a strong word but this best describes her behavior towards me.

Who is this girl?!

What did I do wrong?!

This went on for two days and today is the third day and she’s still behaving coldly towards me. It could be the lack of sleep that’s affecting her growing body and mind. She’s been waking up at 9 – 10am everyday for the past one week during the school holidays and forcing her to get out of her comfy bed at 5:30 a.m. can be ruffling this angry bird’s feathers. Ideally kids need to get 9 hours of sleep but I’ll be happy if she can chalk up at least 7.5 hours. Sleeping early is another issue that I am currently battling with my Gen Z girls. For those of you with Gen Z tween and teens, you’ll know what I mean.

Another factor is at her age, this girl is seeking to find more independence. She’s a tad more sheltered and controlled than her two sisters when they were her age because of her health issue. Until the repeat MRI is carried out (too long a wait at HKL), we are now waiting to know anxiously what’s going on in her urinary tract that’s causing the issue. Because she feels that her wings are clipped and she can’t fly like her peers who are all like birds who have just learnt to fly, she feels that life is unfair to her and she’s left behind in the baby nest alone.

I’ve read that the more I insist on controlling all her choices, I am inviting rebellion, or worse. If I can find appropriate ways to give her independence, she won’t have to rebel against me to start standing on her own two feet. Of course she’ll make mistakes. That’s how humans learn. And of course she isn’t ready to make all her decisions. I’m still the parent. Deciding how much to weigh in is the hardest part of this parenting dance, especially so when I am dealing with a tween who is facing not only wacky hormones flooding her body but also with an undiagnosed condition that may require another surgery that’s causing the both of us a lot of anxiousness. It’s been a long and frustruating 11 years for the both of us.

Feeling down, I had brunch alone today after dropping Sherilyn in school. Hubs was busy at work.  At the shop,  my eyes were bigger than my tummy ~ I over-ordered and had to doggy-bag some of the food home 😬

Two portions of spinach, 3 types of balls, 1 lobak, 1 stuffed bitter gourd, 1 stuffed brinjal and a bowl of pumpkin barley sago tong sui. This shop uses premium Sanbanto pork in their fish paste. Even their pork balls are from Sanbanto.

It’s an achievement that I could eat so much food for brunch! I was so stuffed to the gills that I felt like my denim skirt was going to burst. I am a pathetically small eater, thus I always find someone to eat with me to share my food.  I had to tapau the stuffed brinjal and lobak home.  I couldn’t finish the pumpkin tong sui.

I love the yong tau fu from Taman Desa Yong Tau Fu & Dessert but the bill can be a tad stressful on your budget if you, like me, get too excited and ambitious and stack the tray mountain high with all the stuffed items, balls, vegetables, etc.  My brunch today was RM18 plus RM1.50 parking ~ budget exceeded for lunch but I felt some of the blues melt away as I tucked into the delish food and yummy tong sui.  Food indeed has some destressing effect!

Exactly my sentiments!! A slow death with doses of cortisol injected into the body everyday 😩

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Academic Excellence Reward

Each time we go shopping, Cass would ask to window shop at the Lego shop.  Lego is something that Cass likes since she was 3 years old, besides jigsaw puzzles. She could spend hours on end absorbed in these two toys and be completely oblivious to her surroundings.

The other day I threw a challenge at my Harry Potter fan ~ I told her that if she gets outstanding results in her coming final exam, she’ll get a Harry Potter Lego of her choice.

For the top 3 positions in the entire Primary 5, this Harry Potter Hogwarts Castle with a price tag of RM1,943 will be hers to claim!

And this Hogwarts Clock Tower @ RM499 will be hers if she is within the top 10 in the entire Primary 5.

Let’s see if Cass is able to claim her reward this year. I’m pretty flexible with the prize and it can be carried forward to the following year with no expiry date so long as she meets the target! ☺️

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Faith In Humanity Restored

When Alycia got home from a day’s outing with her friends yesterday, I was surprised to see her donning on a pair of bright yellow Adidas shorts the moment she stepped into the house.  That’s now hers and I queried her.  And there’s a story behind this super expensive pair of shorts, which I initially just couldn’t buy the story.

Here’s the story…

Alycia and her friend were having brunch at the Lot 10 food court yesterday morning before adjourning to the MABA stadium to watch their friend compete in a basketball match. A man who was holding a tray with food and drink was inadvertently shoved by a staff pushing a pushcart and the black herbal drink   was spilled onto Alycia’s long pants.

Rich man to Alycia – I am so sorry!!  

The man then left the scene in a heartbeat but moments later he came back with  something in a plastic bag for Alycia!!

Rich man to Alycia – I got you new pants as compensation. Sorry again!

And in the bag was a pair of shiny original Adidas shorts in fluorescent yellow with a RM120 price tag! Her jaw dropped.  According to Alycia, the man who spoke in a polished English accent wore business suit and looked like some refined and rich businessman.

When I heard the story, I didn’t buy it at all. So did her dad. It sounded too good to be true. Too orchestrated!  When I asked Alycia to show me her stained black pants, it was dry. Why totally dry?!  Her nosy second sister quickly sniffed the pants like a sniffer dog and commented that the pants didn’t smell like it was soaked with herbal drink. 🤣

Alycia – That’s because I washed it at the toilet and sun-dried it at the stadium. You see, I washed it so hard till I tore the pants a bit (then showed me the tear on her pants). Why don’t you believe me mummy? When a real-life Santa Claus gave Cassandra a RM100 note on Boxing Day for no particular reason a few years ago, it’s also an unbelievable story. No one would believe this story too. Good things can happen mummy! Why would I want to lie to you?? 

As I grilled Alycia for the next couple of hours, the story seemed more logical and consistent.  Perhaps I have too much misgivings on humanity caused by all the negative news that I read from the newspapers everyday.  If this story was indeed true, then this stranger has definitely restored my faith in humanity with his responsibility and generosity so that a girl didn’t have to go through the discomfort of wearing a pair of sticky and damp pants the entire day.

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Papa’s 76th Birthday Celebration

Last Friday, my parents took the morning ETS from Ipoh to KL Sentral.  We picked them up from the train station and then adjourned to Brickfields to have lunch of South Indian cuisine at Vishal Food & Catering Restaurant.   Exactly a year ago, we went to this Indian restaurant to have lunch with my parents too when they came to have papa’s birthday celebrated in KL. Happy memories when we walked into the restaurant again exactly after a year!  Why does time fly by so fast?!!

The next day (Saturday),  papa’s birthday celebration was held at Oriental Treasure @ Bangsar South.

Papa’s Hazelnut Chocolate Cake is baked by Front Room & The Kneady Baker again.

The menu that we chose

All the dishes were perfectly executed and right up our alley. Portion was just right and at the end of the dinner, we were not stuffed to the gills. We could still womp up the lemongrass jelly dessert, the ‘sau to’ pau and birthday cake without feeling cloy.

I feel so blessed that papa is able to celebrate his birthday with us again this year.  It really doesn’t seem too long ago that he was here with mum to celebrate his birthday with us. I pray that we can celebrate his birthday every year for many more  years to come. Happiest blessed 76th birthday in advance dearest papa!  ❤️ His actual birthday falls on 19th August.

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Mr Nice Guy

Fai used to be the handyman engaged by our condo management. But when the condo committee changed management company, Fai was replaced by staff brought in by the new management company.  Nonetheless we still call Fai to do repair and renovation works. He’s one of the nicest and most non-calculative man we have known.  He doesn’t give you a bill or request for payment after works are completed. Instead, we have to chase him to collect money from us. Sometimes he does minor repair works for us free of charge when he drops by the condo to do renovation works for other units.

Fai and our family have become friends over the years.  When he was hospitalized for high blood pressure, the mil made him a specially brewed Chinese tea known for bringing down hypertension.  Sometimes we would give him cakes and kuih if he happens to be at our unit.

About two months ago, when the mil called Fai to do some minor repair works at our unit, he Whatsapped a gory photo to her – he was lying on the road with blood oozing out from his leg with firefighters surrounding him. He had fallen from the second floor of a double storey house while doing repair works! We were shocked to see the photo.  Thank God he survived the fall with only a fractured leg and needed several surgeries.

A few weeks after the tragic accident and two surgeries later, Fai is now recuperating. He has to move around on a bespoke wheelchair now.  Recently he came on his wheelchair to our unit to repair our kitchen drawer. I am truly amazed by Fai’s grit and positive attitude.  He only billed us RM30 for the job but I gave him RM50 instead, to cover the cost of Grab.  And the mil gave him a bag of Biscotti that she’d just baked.

Fai is currently unable to do restoration and repair works that require him to climb and move around vigorously but I hope that very soon he’ll be fit as a fiddle to resume working at full-swing once again.  He’s got a whole family to feed.

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Down Memory Lane

Alycia has been assigned by her high school Drama Club teacher-in-charge to organize an end-of- year school trip for Drama Club members.   The destination of choice is Ipoh but she’s open to other places as long as the trip is within the budget of RM200 per student.  So Alycia called my parents to ask them for contact numbers. Today my mum Whatsapped me the brochure of YMCA Ipoh. And the sight of YMCA on the brochure flooded my memories back like torrential rain!

That year was 1987. I was in Form 2 @ MGS Ipoh. The forth formers (just like Alycia who’s in Form 4 now) organized a trip to KL and I begged mum to let me join this trip with my besties.  It was a dream come true when she agreed.  The day came and we took a big long tour bus with air-cond (very rare in those days!) to KL. That was my maiden school trip out of Ipoh and into KL, a place that I’d always wanted to visit.

When we reached KL, we were checked into YMCA.  We were brought to visit all the fun-filled places in KL (Batu Caves, Zoo Negara, Museum, The Mall, airport in Subang Jaya, etc) and from KL we adjourned to Melaka for a day trip before heading back to Ipoh.  At YMCA, about 4 or 5 of my besties and I were placed in a room. There wasn’t any en suite and we had to walk a few meters away to the bathroom and toilets which were not well kept or cleaned. Till today I still have nightmares of those bathrooms and toilets 😱

Besides the nightmarish toilets, there were cockroaches flying in our room. Mother of all horror for me!!!!!  I remember screaming and running like a headless chicken when chased by those huge roaches with flappy wings Oh. My. Gawd.!!!   Also, beside our room were a bunch of rowdy gangsterish Malay boys who kept disturbing us by knocking on the wall to ‘call’ us. They also kept wolf calling us and knocking on our door the entire night. We were scared to death that we would all be gang raped and murdered in the room at YMCA KL. We dared not even go to the toilet and had to hold back our pee the entire night for fear of being raped by those boys 😆  We even pushed our beds against the room door as we were scared shit that those boys would break down the door to look for us  🤣  Yeah, can’t blame a bunch of 13 and 14-year old melodramatic girls, can you?  Besides all these discomfort, we nonetheless had TONS of fun throughout our trip.   If only I could turn back the clock to relive those happy carefree teenage days!

Besides a once a year school trip or holiday that my papa would bring us, our daily lives were pretty much mundane and simple. We were usually already in bed by 9:30 p.m.  We had no electronic devices and our only entertainment back then was TV.  TV programs were pretty limited too and I whiled away my time watching female wrestling series at night – whatcha call that series already? Gladiators or something?


My Gen Z / dopamine frazzled zombies teenage girls – can’t live without their phones and boba tea. I have banned them from adding boba / pearls into their tea and they can only order milk tea without sugar or with the least sugar.

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Sunday, 4 August 2019

The mil left for New Zealand last night, for a 2-month stay with her third daughter and family;which means that I’ll be slogging in the hot kitchen for the next 2 months dishing out lunch and dinner.  No fun for someone who finds cooking a chore!  But what choice does a health freak mommy have huh?  I haven’t found the mojo nor momentum to cook yet but I’ll soon wing it. Bring on the pressure cooker! But I’ll need to have a short refresher session with my mum when she visits this Friday before I use the PPC again. Mum is an expert in pressure cooking. She uses it to make all her dishes and some of her bakes.

Sunday for me is all about leisurely lunch with family, indolent and languid, best time in the week. But I had to  be up at 4:45 a.m. today. It’s day two of Cass’ camp in school today. Though I had a hard time getting this slugabed out of bed and only left the house 10 minutes before the session started, we weren’t late.  It took me under 10 minutes to reach school vs. 20 – 25 minutes on a regular weekday. The roads were super clear. If only KL roads were like this every single day, my life will be so much less stressful!

Lunch with hubs and the two older girls was at Paradise Dynasty @ Pearl Shopping Gallery.

Paradise Dynasty Restaurant is well-known for their colorful Xiao Long Baos, handmade noodles and Shanghainese delicacy.

The dry la mien noodles look simple and unassuming but they pack a phenomenal flavor punch of fried onion oil. Springy, silky and flavorful, each mouthful offers so much euphoria that you’ll have to stop yourself from stuffing this sinful oodles of carbo into your mouth!

The fried rice is gloriously good and filled with ‘wok hei’ (that complex charred aroma that fleetingly cloaks the rice).

After lunch at Paradise Dynasty, hubs segued into KyoChon to get takeaway Korean fried chicken for the girls’ dinner as I don’t cook on Sundays 🤗

Happy Sunday folks and may your new week ahead be filled with incredible luck and joy 😊

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Simple Secrets To A Svelte Figure – Portion Control

For the past two months, I have brought almost ten of my old skirts and pants to the tailor to have the waist part tightened. I know that I’ve lost about 2kg since early this year.  But what I didn’t realize was how much my waist has shrunk. It’s a frigging 3cm! No wonder my pants and skirts kept dropping off my waist and I thought that they  have shrunk in our rather new washing machine that seems to spin rather wildly.

For the record, my waist is now 68cm, down from 71cm!  This means I’m almost back to my pre-pre-pre-pregnancy waist and weight!  I used to be 42~43kg before I became a mother.

Besides ramping up my 5-day a week exercise duration and intensity, I am back at cutting down bread and noodles. Another secret is portion control on food.

I share EVERYTHING that I eat with my daughters, hubs and mil. They are happy too as everyone is very, very cautious on their weight and sugar level at their age now!

In the trunk of my car, I have a tiffin carrier and multiple stainless steel food containers in various sizes.  Whenever I eat out, I stash a food container in my tote bag or lug the 2-tier tiffin carrier along. When my dish arrives, I place half or three quarter of the food in the food container first before I dig into my portion.  Thus, I only eat a quarter or half of what I’ve ordered. This way, I always leave the eatery feeling half full and without guilt!

This is what I had for lunch with the hubs at LDG yesterday ~ chicken chop.

Before digging into it, I quickly kept three quarter of it in a food container for Sherilyn who’s waiting for her lunch at home:

My lunch at PappaRich with Sherilyn earlier this week:

And I kept three quarter of the food in a food container, for Cass’ lunch later.

I don’t really snack in between meals and if I have to, my go-to snacks are always nuts, seeds, sugar-free skinny yoghurt, nut butters, organic milk kefir or organic almond milk with oat bran.

But I’m no angel, I still indulge in sinful carbs and my kryptonite is kuih-muih! 😆  But instead of stuffing the entire kuih into my mouth, I share half of it with my daughters.

Sahara is my current favorite brand of organic milk kefir, imported from Australia.  It has assisted me greatly in my evacuation job every morning! Love the taste too.

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How Often Do You Service Your House Air-Conditioner?

An air-conditioner has to be serviced regularly so that it can perform optimally.  Regular servicing also improves the efficiency of our air conditioner. Experts warn that for every year of operation in which you do not service your aircon, it loses 5% of its efficiency. After 3 years therefore, the efficiency of your air conditioner will have decreased by 15%. This adversely affects its performance, as well as your electric bill!

I clean our air conditioner filters regularly – at least once every 2 weeks – as the filters often get clogged with dust and pollutants.  When the filters are clogged with dirt, you aren’t getting the full effect and your air-conditioner has to work harder to push cool air out, thus more power is used, which means you’ve got to dig deeper into your wallet every month to pay your electric bill.

For air-conditioner, ideally it should be serviced at least once a year.  But we don’t. Both hubs and I are usually so occupied with our work respectively that servicing the air-conditioners will be the last thing on our mind. Plus, the thought of  cleaning up the mess that the technicians leave behind after the job is done is enough to make me procrastinate this yearly affair!  Instead, we have them serviced once every two years.  And this is how shockingly dirty the insides of our air-conditioners are after two years from the last service!

Oh. My. Freaking. Gawd!! Check out the inches of dust, dirt and mold!

I can’t believe that we’d been inhaling such dirty cool air every night for more than a year! No wonder there was a period of time that I kept getting the flu no matter how hard I work on at preventing it.  But after switching the position that I sleep on the bed and the air-conditioner no longer blows at my face directly, I’ve not had another episode of flu.  I now sleep on the inner side of the bed, next to the wall, directly beneath the air-conditioner and no longer feel any cold air lashing out on my face.  Poor hubs has to sleep on the other side of the bed, facing the cold air (23C). Sometimes he sleeps in the living room to avoid the air-cond (good, as I don’t have to be tortured by his thunderous snores 😆 ).

How often do you service the air-conditioners in your house?

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Medical Alert Bracelets Save Lives

Medical alert bracelets and tags can be extremely important for people with diabetes and other life-threatening diseases or disorders. They can be life-saving.

Years ago, a friend’s aged mother with dementia and diabetes wandered off from her house in the early hours of the morning and was only found a day later.  She was finally found a few kilometers away from home by a group of senior citizens who were doing their morning walk rounds.  Fortunately my friend’s mother was wearing a medical alert bracelet that probably saved her life.  The medical alert bracelet had an emergency contact number and her medical condition engraved on it.

If you’ve been diagnosed with a chronic or life-threatening condition, have food or drug allergies, or take medications, then you should wear a medical alert bracelet.  If you are a caregiver, you should also wear a medical alert bracelet to alert emergency personnel of your loved one who needs attention.

A medical alert bracelet or medical identification tag is a small emblem or tag worn on a bracelet, neck chain, or on the clothing bearing a message that the wearer has an important medical condition that might require immediate attention. The tag is often made out of stainless steel, sterling silver, 18k gold plated or black gun plated.

On arrival to a hospital’s emergency department, one of the routine procedures of the evaluation of the critically ill, unconscious, or disoriented patients is to remove their clothing to inspect the body for a cause of their sudden alterations. In these situations, medical alert bracelets can be invaluable as a time saver.

Information That Should Be Put on a Medical Alert Bracelet
The message on your medical alert bracelet should be concise and to the point. “Diabetes” or other medical disorders should be engraved boldly on one side. The other side of the bracelet can have other information such as “insulin dependent” or “medication controlled”.  Other important information can include:

1. An emergency contact number
2. The name of your physician
3. A referral to another place for more information, for example “see wallet card for a full medical history”

Where to Purchase a Medical Alert Bracelet or Tag
There are many online shops selling fashionable medical alert bracelets and chains and one good online shop is u7jewelry.com.

Ordering medical alert bracelets is a breeze at U7jewelry.com. After choosing your choice of tag or bracelet, simply key in your medical condition, contact number and other details that you want to be engraved, choose your metal type and add to cart.  You can make the tag look more fashionable like a fashion jewelry by wearing the tag with a stylish gold chain necklace.

Besides medical alert bracelets, there are over hundreds of thousands of other beautiful jewelry at U7jewelry.com, ranging from summer jewelry, men’s jewelry, religious jewelry, sports jewelry, music jewelry, heart jewelry, customized jewelry and many more.

Shipping is free for orders of $200 and above at u7jewelry.com. Don’t forget to use promo code U7C to get a 30% discount off your bill.

Happy shopping!

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Grandma’s Game Partner

The mil is hooked on Rummikub, a best-selling and fascinating board game that she learned to play with my 13-year old nephew when she was in Hong Kong. When my visiting SIL #2 from Hong Kong came to visit recently, she bought a set of Rummikub for the mil from Hong Kong. We were unable to find the original Rummikub at leading toy stores in KL. I ordered a set from Lazada (shipped from China) but it wasn’t an original set and the quality was so trashy that the tiles couldn’t sit firmly on the stand.  Our friend later ordered a set for us from Shopee and the quality was just as cheesy.

Besides Cass, no one else is interested or has the time to play this game with the mil. Actually Cass has an ulterior  motive playing the game with her grandma 🤑

Tell me what motivates you best?

Yeah, that’s what motivates her too. And me. We all work hard for it.😁

The game got so intense between Cass and the mil that the both of them stayed home on a Saturday night to play while Alycia and Sherilyn and I went out for dinner at a Korean restaurant.

See how $$ motivates eh?

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Is the New Clover Station a Good Fit for My Restaurant?

Always among top POS systems for retailers and restaurants, the new Clover adds even more features specifically designed to make all aspects of running your restaurant easy. The new Clover Station aims to meet the needs of all types of restaurants, including full-service and quick-service.

Clover Dining
Clover Dining is an essential app, developed specifically to address the unique aspects of operating a full-service restaurant. This app is fully integrated and works smoothly with Clover hardware such as the Station and mobile units. Clover Dining helps you handle:

• Floor Plans: The layout of your seating area has a strong impact on both customer experience and workflow. How tables are set up affects how many people you can seat, how quickly they get service and the overall ambience of your establishment. Floor plans may also need to change based on the situation. The Dining app allows you to create virtual plans on the screen, move them and save optimized plans for various types of events.

• Communication: The app facilitates clear and instant communication between front and back of house. Hosts see floor plans and can optimize seating arrangements. Servers can instantly fire orders to the kitchen together with notes on special requests; they can also amend orders after they send them in. Orders go from the servers’ devices to the kitchen printers and displays.

• Specialization: Each member of your team uses the app to optimize performance. Managers can review reports and oversee what is going on in various areas. Bartenders use the app to manage bar tabs. The fast order interface allows servers to place orders quickly and respond to customer requests promptly.

• Payment: The app allows customers to pay at the table and use their payment method of choice, including contactless methods such as Apple or Samsung Pay. The app makes it easy to split a bill or adjust it for additional guests.

Management
Clover offers tools that help you manage personnel. Use apps to plan shifts, note time off and make adjustments as necessary to keep everything running smoothly. Clover also provides several HR tools such as payroll and benefits administration. You can also use Clover to assess performance metrics such as sales. These apps can be synced with outside software such as Quickbooks.

Rewards and Promotions
The new Clover makes it easy to run customer loyalty programs, points rewards and promotions. The Happy Hour app is geared specifically towards restaurants. In spite of the name, your business does not have to be a bar to use Happy Hour. The app gives you an easy way to provide time-based discounts.

The Feedback app is another important customer interaction tool offered by Clover. Feedback makes it easy for customers to leave reviews. In the case of negative feedback, you can quickly and effectively resolve the customer’s complaint.

The new Clover Station ranks among top merchant solutions for both quick- and full-service restaurant owners. New hardware and software features increase speed, versatility and security, while a range of apps helps you optimize operations on several levels. Review the full range of Clover options to see how this system can streamline your business.

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How To Look Taller And Slimmer

Not all celebrities stand as tall as we imagine they are when they appear on screen. Some of Hollywood’s most famous celebrities are average in height. Though it may not seem like it on screen, celebs are human too, and they can be short too.

You may not have known that Victoria Beckham, Shakira, Emilia Clarke, Christina Aguilera and Scarlett Johansson are just some of the famous celebrities that fall under 5’4″. That’s because they know how to add a few inches to their height with some very clever styling tricks.

Let me show you some ways to master the illusion with the right tops and beautiful elegant dresses for women!

1. Flaunt your legs with short skirts and dresses
This is one of my favorite tricks to look taller! I am 5’2″ and I wear short skirts and short pants all the time 😉  While some of you may not feel comfortable walking around in a mini skirt, don’t be afraid to embrace a hemline that is a little shorter than you might usually go for. Your legs will definitely look longer than if you pick a dress or skirt that falls below your knees, like his Embroidery O-Neck Short Sleeve A-Line Dress and  from SheinStore.com

Embroidery O-Neck Short Sleeve A-Line Dress

2. Go crop
Just like with your hemlines when it comes to skirts and dresses, the same can be applied for pants and jeans. If you show off a bit of ankle, it will give the illusion that your legs are too long for the trousers and you will immediately add a few inches to your height.

3. Try a crop top
If you wear a crop top with your high-waisted trousers and skirts, it will help to accentuate this illusion even further. Show off just a slither of skin though.

4. Wear skater dresses
Short women should fill their closets with items of clothing that highlight their assets, and one great area to draw attention to is your naturally smaller waist. Skater dresses do a great job of cinching at the waist, then flaring out toward the bottom hem, making you look noticeably leaner. Opt for a short  skater dress for the best results!

Vintage Stand Collar Floral Print Skater Dress

5. Embrace the high-waist
This is especially important when it comes to wearing slightly longer hemlines, including midi and pencil skirts. It will help create the illusion that the middle part of your body is much longer than the reality.

6. Wear something fitted
I’m not implying that you have to wear bodycon dresses to look tall, but wearing oversized, billowing clothing will accentuate how small you are. So, even if you want to wear a loose-fitted dress like this Embroidery Sleeveless Party Print Maxi Dress with flair skirt, just makes sure it at least nips in at the waist.

Hollow Out Embroidery Sleeveless Party Print Maxi Dress

7. Dress all in one colour
If you’re dressed from head to toe in one colour, you won’t be breaking up your body and will inevitably look taller than if you chop yourself in two by wearing more than one hue.  Check out this elegant Party Pure Color Embroidery Stitching O-Neck Half Sleeve Bodycon Dress from SheinStore.com . The half sleeves make your arms look slender and longer and the short hem flaunts more of your legs.

Party Pure Color Embroidery Stitching O-Neck Half Sleeve Bodycon Dress

Now that you know some simple hacks to make you appear taller, it’s time now to go shopping for some fashion slim ruffled party dresses, office dresses or casual wear at SheinStore.com!  They are offering free shipping and $5 off to new users!  Also apply the promo code BLOG5 for $5 off on all items!

Happy shopping!

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Update On Cassandra’s Appointment With The Urologist at HKL On 4 July 2019

It took me almost half a year to finally secure an appointment for Cass to see Dr Susan, one of the top urologists at HKL. She has a wealth of experience dealing with a myriad of urological disorders from patients young and old. She treats patients not only at HKL but travels all over Malaysia to treat patients.  Dr Susan used to see Cass but I have not brought her back to see Dr Susan for almost 5 years.

Firstly, it was not easy to get through to Dr Susan’s nurse. When I finally got through, the nurse wasn’t around. Next came Hari Raya and the nurse went on leave. When I finally got hold of her on the phone, she informed me that she lost Cass’ file and she needed a referral letter again!!  W.T.Fun!

One day, the hubs needed to go to HKL to visit his staff who was warded for amputation of leg resulting from diabetes complications. What good opportunity for me to get him to hand over the referral letter to Dr Susan’s nurse.  That was the first step to getting the appointment. Yet, it wasn’t easy and I had to waste another month calling almost everyday to finally secure an appointment!

When the nurse gave me an appointment that was one month away, I flipped and pestered her for a closer date.  Thank God the nurse is pretty easy going and helpful and she told me to come next week, on 4 July 2019.

Yay, first mission of 100 accomplished!

On the day of the appointment, we waited for 3 hours before it was our turn. And the appointment with Dr Susan and the nephrologist lasted for almost an hour. Dr Susan was very thorough as usual. She re-studied the previous MRI  report done on 30 December 2014 and based on the remarks written by the radiologist, she ordered a repeat MRI. This time, furosemide (Lasix) will be given along with IV drips to yield clearer images.

Based on the previous MRI report, the radiologist’s conclusion is – there is a high possibility of an external insertion of an additional ureter. But the MRI quality was poor as Cass moved during the procedure. She kept commenting that her body was itchy!

If the repeat MRI shows an ectopic ureter, Cass would have to undergo another surgery. This time, surgery will not be on the abdomen as the doctor said that operating from the old wound would be extremely messy due to adhesions. Cass has had two surgeries on her abdomen.  Surgery will be from her back, where the kidney is 😭

Our next appointment to see Dr Susan is end September 2019. Hopefully we’ll get a date to do the repeat MRI by this year. And hopefully Cass’ lifelong bladder issues will be resolved once and for all by year end. 🙏

I was surprised when on the day of our appointment with Dr Susan, I saw Cass’ file on the table. The nurse managed to locate the file. Good job to her!!

RM10 for this plate of Malay mixed rice.  There’s only 1 cafeteria at the Complex selling Malay food. I didn’t enjoy the food at all and I totally hate eating with plastic cutlery, especially when I have to use it on chicken with bones!

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New Mattress And Beds, Finally

I can finally tick off the first item on my 2019 New Year Resolution – replace old mattress and divan with new one! 👏

I’ve been wanting to replace our divan and mattress since many, many moons ago. But I’ve always been struck by busyness and procrastination.  Buying a new mattress and divan seemed like a colossal chore for me – from going to the furniture shop to getting the mattress and divan delivered to my place, moving the old mattress and divan out, cleaning up the mess, etc. seemed like a daunting task to me. I’m pretty laid back and resistant to change in certain ways.  I’d wanted to change the mattress since 10 years ago but with so many events that had transpired in my everyday hectic life, another 10 years zoomed past.  And what do I know? Hubs and I have been sleeping on the mattress for 20 years already!! And the mattress had been tainted with countless incidences of pee, poop and puke from our three babies and even blood. That mattress had been one hotbed for bacteria and other germs. And we slept on it every night  EEWWWW 🤢 🤮 🤧

Early this week, the mil and I went to the furniture shop and went on a frenzy there!  😬 Besides getting a new king size divan and mattress for my room, I got two solid wood single beds for Alycia and Sherilyn, a new study table for Sherilyn and the mil got herself a solid wood chair for her prayer altar.

My new king size divan and mattress:

Good-bye and thank you very much divan. You’ve served us very well the past 20 years 😘

Alycia’s battered 10.5-year old bed. She’s been sleeping on it ever since we moved into our condo 10.5 years ago. The wood planks are still in very good condition though.

I am still not done with my furniture shopping yet but we’re pretty sucked dry now after this large investment! Let us recoup our earnings first and I’ll get a sold wood sideboard for our dining area.  Mason Home Decor has a very classy  collection of quality solid wood furniture. I love solid wood furniture and Mason Home Decor has a very neat collection of it.

I so love this chic Mason Oak Solidwood sideboard for our dining area:

I also need to get a study table for Cass as she’s now jealous that both her sisters have a study table except her!

A solid wood sideboard and a study table will be in our to-buy furniture list now! Maybe next year 😉

Ok, enough on furniture! Let’s talk mooncakes 😋

Although Mooncake Festival is 1.5 months away, retailers are already displaying lanterns and mooncakes for sale!  And I see people buying mooncakes now!

I don’t really fancy eating mooncakes but if I see low sugar mooncakes, I’ll get one to try. My favorite flavors are assorted nuts and pandan.

This premium pandan single yolk mooncake made from real pandan leaves from Bing Liang Bakery looks divine and is now on a sale.  I’m so tempted to get one to try!

Do you like mooncake and what’s your favorite mooncake flavor?

Happy FriYay folks and have an awesome weekend!

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Benefits of Wearing Shapewear

Shapewear is an undergarment designed to impermanently alter the wearer’s body shape, to achieve what some view as a more fashionable and presentable figure.  While shapewear is most often used to help slim the body, it can also provide support to the bust and back area.

In the most recent years, shapewear has made a large presence all over the world. What started centuries ago as a simple one-piece slimming garment has now turned into something much more. Shapewear has hit the shelves in large quantities of colors, styles, types, patterns, and shapes. While many people are aware of shapewear, they often lack knowledge about what shapewear can be used for. I admit that I’m quite a noob too when it comes to shapewear.  The only shapewear that I own is a piece of slimming panty, which I will only use when I wear bodycon dresses.

Shapewear can perform wonders to a woman’s bod.  There are various types of shapewear and I hope that this article will help to educate you on the uses of different types of shapewear.

Sweat Belt Waist Trainer
A Cosmolle Sweat Belt Waist Trainer can slim your waistline and keep it trim with this latex waist trainer that is uniquely designed to wear for enhanced workout results. The compression along with the latex material increases sweat production to contour and shape your waistline to the desired figure.

Butt Enhancer Panty 
This gives the wearer a sexy look from every angle under clothes. It is suitable for all ladies who want to stay in shape, including postpartum mummies.

Bodysuit Shaper Panty
The compression of this bodysuit will tuck your tummy while leaving your boobs and thighs free for more comfort. It is an ideal post-surgery shapewear and posture corrector. The “fajas 0227” bodysuit shaper panty from Cosmolle.com  has no zipper or hook and eye closure, which will make it completely invisible under clothes while hiding back bulges.

Shapewear Legging
This Cosmolle high-waisted shapewear legging is an amazing addition to any wardrobe. The seamless design was developed with everyday comfort in mind. Dress up or down, wear them day or night. Pair them with a cute tunic or rock it with a blouse and blazer for a more polished look. However you choose to wear them, we know you’re going to fall in love with their versatility and comfort!

Ladies looking for plus size shapewear will benefit greatly from Cosmolle bodysuits. These bodysuits will slim tummy, midsection and hips into an hourglass shape.

Besides enhancing your curves and making you look slimmer, shapewear go beyond shaping. They boost your self-esteem and confidence, give you proper posture support and complement a weight-loss program.

While shapewear do not help you lose weight per se, they can play an important role in your weight loss program.  Wearing shapewear while you’re trying to lose weight can give you a vision of a slimmer figure and can help you stay motivated. You may find yourself a lot less likely to reach for junk food when you look in the mirror and see what the healthy, curvier, confident version of yourself looks like!

Along with a healthy diet, exercise and proper shapewear, you will be on your way to achieving a permanent hour-glass figure 😉

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