Have you ever felt like there’s a thorn pricking your heart whenever you get overly enraged with your kids, spouse, in laws, boss or your friends? Lately I would experience a sharp pain my my heart that lasts a few seconds whenever I get extremely furious with my girls when they are rude and disrespectful to me or turn a deaf ear to my instructions. I can associate the pain in my heart to stress pain. This gets me thinking if it’s really worth it to blow up and show the authoritative side of me just to get them to do what I want them to do. It would be a win-win situation if they get it their way and I don’t get a surge in cortisol or stress hormones in my body. Lately I’ve been getting a good dose of elevated cortisol level and I am not liking what it’s doing to my heart and overall being.
Do you know that elevated cortisol level kills?
Serious issues can arise when high cortisol levels become chronic. Then it can turn into a killer, leading to immune system deficiency and even cancer. Cortisol also raises glucose levels within normal cells. I am sure you have read what cancer cells love to feed on? You guessed it. Sugar!
So peeps, banish stress in our lives! Banish anger and greed altogether in order to banish elevated cortisol level.
Can I then stop being the Perfectionist Mother and be the Best Friend Mother instead to my kids?
I am trying my best but it’s hard. It’s hard to let go of expectations and let my kids go with the flow as the fear of all that can go wrong with leniency is too strong.
Yesterday night, despite being burnt to a crisp and severely sleep deprived, I was insomniac. I kept thinking about a friend and prayed for her healing. About an hour before bedtime, I found out that a friend of mine had just gone for a surgery to remove a malignant tumor from her body followed by chemo. The news was totally shocking to me. My friend is known to everyone to be such a jovial, happy and lucky lady with the perfect husband and children. She’s got the looks, the money, love and everything in the world. Perhaps she’s been dealt with a little more stress and rivalry than usual at her workplace all these years. I still can’t believe the news.
Life is too precious to get angry and stressed up over our loved ones, boss, work and money. Chronic anger also churns out poison to our liver. I know it is easier said than done. I am myself a chronically stressed up, angry and frustrated mother and wife. I was given a second chance in life last year, not once but twice. I have to keep reminding myself that nothing is more important to me than my own health. I have to stay healthy in order to live long enough to watch my children grow up, graduate from university, get married, have their own children, travel the world and enjoy my retirement.
So in conclusion, what I am trying to say is try to banish unnecessary stress from our lives. Set lower expectations, forgive and forget (though the forgetting part can be tricky), eat clean and healthy, exercise and don’t forget to pray.