My maid caused a big stir and commotion last night when her Nepalese boyfriend tried to talk to her from outside the gate. I was about to take my shower when I heard a commotion outside our house. I peeped at the window and saw a group of about 4 guards apprehending a man. I thought the man was acting suspiciously outside my house, thus the reason why the guards apprehended him. The guards were apparently very furious and kept shouting “bl**dy hell, you stay away from here, don’t let me see you again!” Minutes later, the guard saw me peeping from the window upstairs and said this “you be careful, this Nepalese man was talking to your maid. He wanted to climb into your house. Don’t say I didn’t warn you when your maid runs away. We will be making a police report.”
I was really flabbergasted. How on earth did my maid befriend a Nepalese man when we don’t allow her to go out? I called my maid and questioned her. Initially, she denied knowing the guy and said the guy wanted to talk to her. When I asked why the guy wanted to climb into our house, she denied that. She kept saying “Madam percaya saya tak, guard tu bohong. Lelaki tu tak panjat pagar”. I just told her that whatever it is, just don’t cause any trouble to us coz having a stranger climbing into our house compound is a serious matter and I definitely do not want to get startled when I see a stranger in my house.
Anyway, I quickly called hubby to inform him and I also told my hubby not to be too harsh on our maid coz we don’t want her to be full of vengeance and hatred towards us. When he came back, he queried my maid again. After using some reverse psychology and some humor, my maid finally admitted that the Nepalese man is her boyfriend whom she had befriended when she went out to dry the laundry and water the plants. They see each other everyday. They have also been exchanging love letters. We told our maid that we will not stop her from seeing her boyfriend but she can never bring the guy into our house and she cannot go out with him. After all, she only has a remaining of 1.5 months to work for us and she can do whatever she wants thereafter. Long story cut short, we managed to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and she confessed many things to us. We also told her that we had found out that she’s been passing letters to another guard, to which she was really shocked to know that we had discovered her dalliance with the guard.
What I don’t understand about these Indon maids is how can they be in love so easily with so many men whom they barely know at the same time. There was a similar case with my 2 previous maids when we found out that they had dalliance with several men at the same time! Maybe they were all stricly platonic relationships and they were just trying to find something fun to do to kill loneliness and stress? I don’t know, I just hope I get to analyse their behavior better, understand them better and know how to tackle them better so that all these problems will not recur with my future maids.
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Have to be very careful with Indon maids. My SIL’s maid and my neighbour’s maid have boyfriends too. Luckily they didn’t run away.
oh, that’s really really bad! i think they r lonely and those men can sweet talk them till they give in. not to scare u, but i suspect ur maid has invited men into ur hse b4. most of them do. same with my cousins’ maids!! but then i cld be wrong..just be careful with ur new maid lor
One of my MIL’s Indon maid got pregnant & the other Cambodia maid ran away with the boy friend in the middle of the night leaving our gates wide open.
I think it’s not only with Indon maid that we have to be careful of now… Have to monitor them closely, double workload for us…
Maybe get a not so pretty maid in future? that’s what me and my family do to reduce the chances of maids getting bfs and run away ! :>
aiyoo..teruk, i hope she leaves in peace lah…u at home oso she can do liddat
i think they are lonely and also “hao” also lah! *sigh* we can’t live with them nor without them!
hhmm…scary that these can happen when you are home. Sometimes having a dumbo is better than those smart and quick witted one
Imagine u’re staying at home, these things can oso happen. I think, if they really want to do hanky panky stuff, they’ll find a way. Good luck with ur new maid.
you know..i think that eventhough they are not so pretty or not so smart, they still end up having boyfriends. Guess i realise now why some employers are so strict with their maids.
My brother’s maid got pregnant.
Here’s how it happened.
When my brother and his family were overseas on holidays, the maid would invite INTO THE HOUSE the bf. God only knows what funky stuff they did while they were IN THE WHOLE HOUSE.
It was because her period never came that my bro took her to the Dr. They didn’t tell her that she was pregnant, and with super-short notice, told her to pack up and took her to the agency. At the agency she confessed, says she wants to call her lover as he promised to take her back. The agent called, the man denied everything.
What can the maid do? Only to be shipped back home pregnant. She is only 18-19 years old.
I’d hate to think what life the unborn child will have.
doesn’t sound good…Pray that she will not do any harm to all of you…
Actually, it’s quite common for maids to have boyfriends, but I don’t like it. I can’t deny that they are human with feelings too, but it’s just feel weird seeing them flirting around.
Donch really think there is a way to understand these maids.. to be honest. Donch have to waste time.. coz’ it’s just not worth your effort.
Wow..u’re so good to ur maid..if me ar..i think i already fired her lo.
It is very true, very hard to control them not to have bf, even those married indon maid also can hv bf here! I hv learn two lesson from my previos two indon maid, NEVER THREAT THEM SO GOOD, THEY WON”T APPRECIATE!
Hope she will “stay good” till she leave.
Oh dear! Must be really careful! I’ve caught my uncle’s maid on the bed before!